Dear Friend,

A whole new month, month 7, and for the 7th time this year, happy new month. Also, welcome to the second half of the year; this month shall be a month where you say The Lord remembered me. Another month, another series, shall we, Dear Friend?

“But I say to you, love your enemies, bless those who curse you, do good to those who hate you, and pray for those who spitefully use you and persecute you.” – Matthew 5:44 (NKJV)

There’s this moment I’ll never forget. I was sitting in the corner of my room, heart heavy, and replaying an offence like a broken record. Just before I could raise another complaint to heaven, the Holy Spirit whispered, “Will you love her anyway?” I wanted to shout, “Lord, is it me you’re asking this question or my shadow?” Because if you know what she did, but it is not like you are not aware of what she did, if you know how deeply it cut you’ll know why I don’t want to pray for her, greet her, or even like her status. lmao me, I have blocked already.

But again, came the whisper. “Love. Anyway.”

This is not the kind of faith they preach in the feel-good churches. This one burns. It demands. It breaks you open and rebuilds you in the shape of Jesus.

Let’s start with an honest question: Have you ever felt like obeying God was a betrayal of your own pain?

Because I have. And if we’re being sincere, loving certain people feels like you’re throwing away your dignity, handing roses to the same people who gave you thorns. But then God comes with His ever-unserious, always-holy, eternity-minded self and says:

“Love her anyway.” “Serve him still.”

“I know what they did. But I need you to represent Me, not you.” That’s the sting. Not because you didn’t hear Him, but because it was Him that exposed the betrayal in the first place

When God Snitches and Still Sends You Back

Yes, let’s talk about it. Let’s talk about when God is the one who exposed their betrayal, highlighted their envy, showed you their intentions, brought confirmation after confirmation, and then tells you to forgive them. Not only forgive, but love. You’re standing there like: “But Lord, You were the one that reported her to me. So now I should go and carry love on my head?” 😭😭😭😭

It doesn’t make emotional sense, but it makes kingdom sense. Because we are not just called to love the lovable. We are called to love like Him. Romans 5:8 “But God demonstrates His own love for us in this: While we were still sinners, Christ died for us.”

Jesus didn’t wait for an apology. He didn’t hold back affection until we changed. He didn’t post vague subs on His IG story when we hurt Him. He gave and gave and gave. And then said, “Go and do likewise.”

BUT WHAT ABOUT BOUNDARIES?

Yes, love doesn’t always mean access. It doesn’t mean foolishness or enabling toxicity. It does mean your heart posture remains yielded to God. It means you’re not rehearsing their wrong. You’re not praying for their downfall in disguise. You’re not plotting closure they never asked for.

Love anyway.

• Even when it costs your pride.

• Even when your flesh is screaming.

• Even when you have the full screenshots.

THE WITNESS OF TOUGH LOVE

There’s a reason Jesus said:

“By this everyone will know that you are my disciples, if you love one another.” John 13:35. Not by how fast you speak in tongues. Not by your ability to block people prophetically. But by love. So this month is not about them. It’s about what God is trying to shape in you through them.

The Weight and the Wonder

I know. This is not soft love. This is not safe love. This is love with teeth marks in it. Love with wounds that heaven still calls beautiful. But if God still loves you through all your patterns, moods, doubts, silence, and rebellion, then yes, He can ask you to love them too.

And the wildest thing? That love may just be the seed of their redemption. So say it with your chest this week: “Lord, this one is hard, but I’ll love anyway. Because You did it first. And You’re doing it through me.”